QUESTION ❓
Assalamu Alaikum, respected scholar. Is it permissible for a man to blow a kiss to his girlfriend over the phone, including making kissing sounds during a phone call?
ANSWER
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Wa Alaikum Assalam wa Rahmatullahi
wa Barakatuh.
In Islam, it is important to
distinguish between a person who is legally married and a couple who are merely
dating, engaged, or have agreed to marry.
An engagement or an agreement to
marry does not make a couple husband and wife. Until a valid Islamic marriage
contract (nikah) has been concluded, they remain non-mahram to each
other and must observe the relevant boundaries in their interactions.
1.
Is Blowing a Kiss Over the Phone Permissible Before Marriage?
A kiss exchanged through a phone
call is different from physical contact, since the two people are not
physically touching. Nevertheless, the intention, content, and nature of the
interaction matter.
If a person deliberately engages in
intimate or sexually suggestive communication with someone they are not married
to, particularly when it is intended to arouse desire or encourage prohibited
intimacy, this raises legitimate Islamic concerns.
Allah, the Most High, says:
Arabic:
﴿وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا
الزِّنَىٰ ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا﴾
Transliteration:
Wa lā taqrabū az-zinā innahu kāna
fāḥishatan wa sāʾa sabīlā.
English translation:
“And do not approach unlawful sexual
intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.”
Reference:
Surah al-Isra', 17:32.
This verse instructs Muslims not
only to avoid zina itself but also to avoid conduct that may lead towards it.
However, not every affectionate word or sound is automatically equivalent to
zina; the circumstances and nature of the interaction must be considered.
2.
Does an Engagement Make Such Intimacy Permissible?
No. An engagement, a family
agreement, or a public announcement that a couple intends to marry does not
establish the rights of marriage.
Until the Islamic marriage contract
has been concluded, the couple must continue to observe the boundaries
applicable to non-mahram men and women.
Therefore, a couple who are engaged
should avoid intimate communication that encourages sexual desire or crosses
the boundaries of modest conduct.
3.
What If the Couple Are Already Married?
The situation is different when a
valid Islamic marriage contract has been concluded. Husband and wife may
express affection for one another, including through telephone calls and
messages, subject to general Islamic principles and any relevant concerns about
privacy.
The essential distinction is whether
the couple are legally married under Islamic law, not merely whether they
intend to marry.
4.
Advice for Young People Who Intend to Marry
Those who intend to marry should
build their relationship on honesty, respect, good character, and a shared
commitment to their faith.
They can discuss compatibility,
family expectations, values, and practical matters relating to marriage while
maintaining appropriate boundaries.
If both parties are serious about
marriage, they should pursue the process in a lawful and responsible manner
rather than treating engagement as though it were already marriage.
Modesty and self-restraint help
protect personal dignity and support a healthy foundation for married life.
Conclusion
An engagement does not make intimate
conduct permissible in the same way as marriage. Couples who have not concluded
a valid Islamic marriage contract should avoid sexually suggestive
communication and interactions that cross Islamic boundaries.
However, blowing a kiss over the
phone is not physically identical to kissing someone in person, and it should
not automatically be described as zina itself. Its ruling depends on the nature
and purpose of the communication and the applicable Islamic principles.
May Allah guide us to what is right,
protect us from wrongdoing, and grant those who seek marriage a lawful and
blessed union.
Wallāhu Taʿālā Aʿlam — And Allah
knows best.
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