A Question from Someone Mourning His Mother
Question:
Assalamu alaikum. I hope you are all well. Please help me understand my
dream.
My mother has passed away, and I frequently dream about her. In the dreams, she appears as though she is still alive, but towards the end of the dream I suddenly see that she has died. Last night, I dreamed that she was in sujood and then died at the end of the dream. Please, what could this dream mean?
Answer
Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi
wa barakatuh.
May Allah have mercy upon your
mother, forgive her, grant her a spacious and illuminated grave, and admit her
into Jannatul Firdaus.
First, try not to be frightened by
this dream.
When a person loses someone they
deeply love—particularly a mother—it is quite common to dream about that
person. Grief can remain deeply rooted in the heart, and memories of the
deceased may appear during sleep in different forms.
However, we should be careful about
giving dreams interpretations that go beyond what Islam allows us to know.
Can
We Say That the Dream Proves a Good Ending?
Seeing your deceased mother in
sujood is certainly a beautiful and comforting image, especially because
sujood is one of the greatest acts of worship.
But we cannot say with certainty:
“Because you saw her die in sujood
in your dream, this proves that she had a good ending and is definitely in a
particular state in the Hereafter.”
The condition of the deceased after
death belongs to the unseen, and only Allah knows it with certainty.
A good dream may bring comfort, but
it does not give us definitive knowledge about someone's final destination or
their condition in the Hereafter.
Therefore, the safest response is to
say: Allah knows best.
If the dream brings you comfort, you
may take it as something pleasant without turning it into a definite religious
conclusion.
Why
Do You Keep Seeing Your Mother in Your Dreams?
There may be a very simple
explanation: you miss her deeply.
The relationship between a child and
his or her mother can be extraordinarily strong. After her death, memories,
conversations, experiences and emotions connected with her may remain deeply
present in the heart.
This can sometimes appear in dreams.
The fact that she appears alive in
your dream and that you later discover that she has died may also reflect the
painful reality of bereavement: part of your mind remembers her as the person
you knew and loved, while another part knows that she is no longer physically
present.
This does not necessarily mean that
the dream carries a hidden prediction.
It may simply reflect love,
memory and grief.
What
Does Islam Teach About Dreams?
The Prophet ﷺ taught that dreams are not all the same.
He ﷺ
said:
Arabic:
الرُّؤْيَا الصَّالِحَةُ مِنَ اللَّهِ، وَالْحُلْمُ مِنَ
الشَّيْطَانِ
Transliteration:
Ar-ru'yā aṣ-ṣāliḥatu min Allāh, wal-ḥulmu min ash-shayṭān.
English translation:
“A good dream is from Allah, while a bad dream is from Satan.”
Source: Sahih al-Bukhari; Sahih
Muslim.
Therefore, if you see a dream that
is pleasant and brings you peace, you may be grateful to Allah for it. If you
see something frightening or disturbing, the Sunnah teaches you to seek refuge
in Allah and not allow the dream to dominate your thoughts.
The
Most Beneficial Thing You Can Do for Your Mother
Rather than spending too much time
trying to decode every dream, direct your energy toward things that can
genuinely benefit her.
1.
Make Du'a for Her
This is one of the most important
things a righteous child can do for a deceased parent.
Allah teaches us to pray:
Arabic:
رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Transliteration:
Rabbi irḥamhumā kamā rabbayānī ṣaghīrā.
English translation:
“My Lord! Be merciful to them, as they raised me when I was young.”
Qur'an 17:24
You can also sincerely ask Allah to
forgive your mother, have mercy upon her, raise her rank and admit her into
Paradise.
2.
Give Charity on Her Behalf
The Prophet ﷺ was asked whether charity given on behalf of a deceased mother
would benefit her.
He ﷺ
answered in the affirmative.
Source: Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih
Muslim.
Therefore, if you are able, you may
give charity on behalf of your mother. It could be food, water, financial
assistance to someone in need, or another legitimate form of charity.
Do not feel that it must be
something expensive. What matters is sincerity.
3.
Maintain the Relationships She Left Behind
If your mother had relatives,
friends or people she cared about, maintaining good relations with them can be
a beautiful way of honouring her memory.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that among the ways of continuing kindness to one's
parents is maintaining relationships connected to them.
Source: Sahih Muslim.
So visiting her relatives, treating
them kindly and preserving family ties can be a meaningful form of birr
toward your mother.
What
About Reciting the Qur'an for Her?
Reciting the Qur'an is a great act
of worship and can bring comfort and tranquillity to the living.
However, scholars have differed
regarding whether the reward of Qur'an recitation can be gifted to the
deceased. Because of this scholarly disagreement, it is better not to present
it as an undisputed Sunnah specifically established for every deceased person.
There are, however, clear and
undisputed acts that benefit the deceased, including du'a and charity,
so these should receive particular attention.
Do
Not Allow Grief to Turn Into Fear
It is natural to miss your mother.
It is natural to dream about her.
It is natural to wake up from such a
dream with strong emotions.
But do not allow yourself to become
frightened every time you see her in a dream.
Her death was already decreed by
Allah, and no dream can change what Allah has decreed.
Allah says:
Arabic:
كُلُّ نَفْسٍ ذَائِقَةُ الْمَوْتِ
Transliteration:
Kullu nafsin dhā'iqatu al-mawt.
English translation:
“Every soul will taste death.”
Qur'an 3:185
Your responsibility now is not to
discover the unseen through dreams. Your responsibility is to pray for your
mother, honour her memory, maintain good deeds and ask Allah to unite you with
her in Paradise.
Take
Comfort From the Sujood
Although we cannot claim that the
dream proves your mother's exact condition in the Hereafter, there is nothing
wrong with feeling comforted by seeing her in sujood.
Sujood itself is a beautiful image
of submission and worship.
You can simply say:
“Allah knows best. O Allah, if this
dream is good, make it a source of comfort for me, and have mercy upon my
mother.”
That is safer than claiming
knowledge of something Allah has kept hidden from us.
A
Final Message to the Bereaved Child
If you miss your mother, turn that
love into du'a.
When you remember her, ask Allah to
forgive her.
When you have the opportunity to
give charity, give some on her behalf.
When you meet her relatives, treat
them with kindness.
When you feel the pain of her
absence, remember that this life is temporary and that the believer's hope is
in Allah's mercy and the everlasting life of the Hereafter.
May Allah forgive your mother,
shower her with His mercy, expand her grave, illuminate it for her, overlook
her shortcomings, accept her good deeds, raise her among the righteous, and
grant her Jannatul Firdaus.
May Allah also give you patience,
strengthen your heart, ease the pain of your loss, and reunite you with your
mother in Paradise.
Āmīn.
Wallāhu a'lam — And Allah knows
best.
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