QUESTION ❓
Assalamu
alaikum. May Allah bless you,
Sheikh, and grant you a peaceful day.
I have met a young
man who wants to marry me, so I performed Salat al-Istikhara
concerning him, following the way taught by the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
After completing
the prayer, I went back to sleep and dreamed that I had been married to this
man. In the dream, I was crying because I was going to be taken to another
town.
Then one of our
neighbours came and said that he wanted to pray for me because I had jinn and
that he would remove them. He kept pulling my little toe until I woke up.
What does this dream mean? Does it have anything to do with the Istikhara I performed?
May Allah reward
you.
ANSWER ❗️
Wa
alaikumus-salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
May Allah guide
you to what is best for your religion, your life and your future.
The first and most
important point is that Salat al-Istikhara should not be understood as
a prayer that must be followed by a dream.
What Is the Purpose of Istikhara?
Jabir ibn Abdullah
رضي الله عنهما reported:
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُعَلِّمُنَا الاِسْتِخَارَةَ
فِي الأُمُورِ كُلِّهَا كَمَا يُعَلِّمُنَا السُّورَةَ مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ
Kāna
Rasūlullāhi ﷺ yuʿallimunā
al-istikhārata fil-umūri kullihā kamā yuʿallimunā as-sūrata minal-Qurʾān.
“The Messenger of
Allah ﷺ used to teach us Istikhara for all matters
just as he used to teach us a surah from the Qur’an.”
Sahih
al-Bukhari, 6382
The purpose of
Istikhara is to ask Allah to choose what is best and facilitate it for the
person, while turning away what is harmful.
The Prophet ﷺ taught a supplication in which the servant
asks Allah, in essence, that if the matter is good for his religion,
livelihood and ultimate outcome, Allah should decree it, make it easy and bless
it; and if it is bad, Allah should turn it away from him and turn him away from
it.
Therefore, there
is no authentic teaching saying that a person must see a particular dream after
Istikhara.
Does Your Dream Mean You Will Marry This Man?
Not necessarily.
Seeing yourself
married to someone after performing Istikhara does not establish that
you will marry that person or that he is definitely the right husband for you.
It is possible
that the dream was influenced by the fact that you were already thinking about
the man and had just performed Istikhara concerning marriage to him. Dreams can
sometimes reflect matters occupying a person's thoughts and emotions.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that dreams are of different types.
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه reported that the
Prophet ﷺ said:
الرُّؤْيَا ثَلَاثَةٌ
Ar-ruʾyā
thalāthah.
“Dreams are of
three types...”
He mentioned the
good dream from Allah, the distressing dream from Satan, and what a person
tells himself.
Sahih
Muslim, 2263
Therefore, a dream
immediately following Istikhara should not automatically be treated as a divine
answer.
What About Crying Because You Were Being Taken to Another
Town?
There is no
authentic Islamic rule stating that crying in a marriage dream means
the marriage will bring problems, just as there is no established rule
that marriage in a dream means an actual marriage is coming.
Your crying could
simply reflect an anxiety or concern that already exists within you—for
example, fear of leaving your family, moving to another place, or adjusting to
a new life after marriage.
But we should not
say with certainty that this is what the dream means. Dream
interpretation is not a mathematical system in which every symbol has one fixed
meaning.
What About the Neighbour Saying You Had Jinn?
This part of the
dream should also not be taken as evidence that you actually have jinn
or that you are affected by possession.
A person seeing
jinn, a healer, an exorcism, or someone claiming to remove jinn in a dream does
not establish that such a condition exists in real life.
Likewise, the
neighbour pulling your little toe has no known, authentic Islamic
interpretation that allows us to conclude that it represents a particular
future event or hidden problem.
If the dream
frightened you, treat it as a disturbing dream rather than trying to decode
every detail.
The Prophet ﷺ instructed that when a person sees
something unpleasant in a dream, he should seek refuge in Allah from its evil
and from Satan, spit lightly to his left three times, and avoid telling people
about the disturbing dream. Sahih al-Bukhari, 6985; Sahih Muslim, 2261.
So How Should You Proceed With the Marriage?
Do not accept or
reject the man because of this dream alone.
Instead,
investigate the matter in the proper Islamic way.
Consider:
·
his religious commitment and character;
·
how he treats people;
·
his honesty and sense of responsibility;
·
his ability and willingness to fulfil the responsibilities of marriage;
·
compatibility between the two of you;
·
the views of trustworthy family members and people who know him well.
You may also
continue making Istikhara and seeking sincere advice from trustworthy people.
Allah says:
وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ
فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ
Wa
shāwirhum fil-amr, fa-idhā ʿazamta fatawakkal ʿalallāh.
“And consult them
in the matter; then when you have decided, put your trust in Allah.”
Qur’an
3:159
If the marriage is
good for you, you ask Allah to facilitate it and bless it. If it is harmful,
ask Allah to turn it away and grant you something better.
Do Not Let Dreams Create Fear or Suspicion
Most importantly,
do not conclude from this dream that you have jinn, that the man is necessarily
your destined husband, or that the marriage will certainly bring hardship.
The unseen
belongs to Allah alone.
Allah says:
قُل لَّا يَعْلَمُ مَن فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ
الْغَيْبَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ
Qul lā
yaʿlamu man fis-samāwāti wal-arḍil-ghayba illallāh.
“Say, ‘None in the
heavens and earth knows the unseen except Allah.’”
Qur’an
27:65
Therefore, let the
dream remain a dream. Put your trust in Allah, investigate the man's character
and suitability carefully, consult people you trust, and make your decision
based on sound Islamic and practical considerations—not on dream symbols.
If Allah
facilitates the marriage in a sound and lawful manner, that is something to
consider positively. If the matter becomes unsuitable or harmful, you may step
away without feeling that you have disobeyed the message of your Istikhara.
Wallāhu
Aʿlam — And Allah knows best.
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